Make peace with it—simple words that when strung together offer wise advice for bringing calm and perspective to any situation that causes consternation. It makes sense. Instead of creating a lot of negative energy by focusing on how arbitrary, unfair, or annoying a challenge is, we adjust our mindset to finding a way toward acceptance and in doing so take back our peace. This is easier said than done, but better than the alternative of living in discontent.
By making peace, we do not surrender to unacceptable behavior or forgo taking steps to improve a poor situation. Making peace means having the willingness to accept things as they are rather than maintaining hostility that they happened. Through an attitude of acceptance, we are better positioned to rationally develop solutions that are more likely to bear fruit and allow us to move forward. Acceptance and peace do not ensure that a solution will come easily and quickly, and they do not promise that we will not have to make peace again and again as we work to resolve the issue. Acceptance and peace do position us well to meet the challenge with an open mind and a positive attitude. This provides the forward trajectory necessary to resolve the problem and ultimately become stronger for the experience.
When we don’t have peace as we move through difficult situations, we make a bad situation worse. The absence of acceptance and peace invites self-pity to take up residence in our minds and our hearts. This destructive emotion encourages a lamenting of our woes that only brings us further and further away from our peace. This use of energy and time will not make the situation easier to bear or banish it from our lives. It will only serve to erode our spirit, making us less than rather than greater for what the difficulty was intended to teach us. The good news is that our peace is always accessible by merely changing our approach to how we view the challenges in our lives.
Each challenge we face provides us with an opportunity to learn but not every challenge can be resolved. These situations provide us with the opportunity leverage our inherent wisdom to know the difference between giving up and moving on. When we have done all we can, sometimes the lesson is about closing one chapter in our lives and beginning another. This choice is not about giving up but rather about accepting that a specific time in our life has taught us all it can and that it is time to embark on new opportunities. Making peace with that choice means that we don’t feel as if we were pushed out or wasted our time but that we are grateful for what we learned and wish those that we leave behind well. By entering our new chapter with a peaceful heart, we ensure our happiness and future success.
Peace within us creates peace within the world. It is conscience choice we make each day. When we elect to make peace with our lives, we lead by example. We can never know who is watching and learning from us, but we can rest assured that how we choose to embrace life will have an impact on ourselves and those around us. By making peace with our lives, our challenges don’t consume us. Instead we ensure joy and light can find their way into our lives and the lives of those around us helping to create a more harmonious world for all.
Renee’ Gatz has been an executive in the
ﬁnancial services industry for 15 years
where she has held a variety of marketing
and communications roles. Renee’ is a
graduate of St. Peter's College in Jersey
City, NJ where she earned a Bachelor of
Science degree in Business Management while attending school
in the evening and working full time. She lives in Woodbridge,
NJ not far from her childhood home.